Well, the dare yesterday worked great!!!
When i got in the car i gave Jason 3 big kisses! I think he was already in a good mood, but we have gotten into the bad habit of not kissing each other hello anymore (sometimes we don't greet each other at all!!!!)
He started joking and talking to me about all kinds of things. The book was right! It totally set the mood for the ride home!!!
My goal is to greet him like this as often as possible, even if he's not in such a great mood! I'm hoping it will always set a lighter tone as soon as i get in the car (he picks me up everyday after work)
I was already in a good mood because of how great the dare went, but then he asked me if i wanted to go to trivia that night at the Dog and Duck. I told him I wanted to go but that my friend, Krista (who dates Rick, one of his new found friends) had asked us to go to Madra Rua the next night for St.Patty's day.
The problem with this is i could only do one or the other, not both. I needed to get Taylor one of the nights. He said it was my choice. I asked him if he was going out to trivia regardless of what i decided and he said "no, I'm only going if you are"!!!!
I was sooo happy!!! I told him that he could go to trivia if he wanted and I would stay home and no matter how much i tried to get him to go he wouldn't!!
It made me feel go that he was willing to stay home with me!
He knows i think he has been going out to much, even tho he usually invites me, like i said in my last blog, i have responsibilities at home and cant go out every single night!
So onto the next dare.....
The Lesson:
Love is unconditional
The Dare:
Do something out of the ordinary today for your spouse- something that proves (to you and to them) that your love is based on your choice and nothing else. Wash her car. Clean the kitchen. Buy his favorite dessert. Fold the laundry. Demonstrate love to them for the sheer joy of being their partner in marriage.
Well i always clean the kitchen and do the laundry, so those two wont help me. (I think he needs to read this book stat!!!)
His favorite dessert is probably an ice cream cake from Dairy Queen, but since we are working with only one car for the moment, it's going to be hard for me to surprise him with something like that.
He would LOVE for me to wash the car, but its been pretty rainy all week!
Ill either have to think of something else, or wait till it stops raining!!!
We'll see!
Tuesday, March 17, 2009
Monday, March 16, 2009
9
I am very sorry to say this last dare has had me a bit stumped.
In the last week or so i have realized that i have to work on my jealousy BIG time! In reality it has nothing to do with how much i trust Jason, it's really about my own insecurities. Like when he goes and hangs out with his friends but leaves me at home with Taylor. He has spent the last 2 years sharing MY friends bc he had just moved back and didnt know anybody! i should be overjoyed that he finally has someone/somewhere that he can go hang out and stay out of trouble.
The best part about it is, they are my friends too and i really like hanging out with all of them! Its kind of a couples thing going on and everyone is so funny and easy going! I think the only reason i get jealous is bc none of them have kids so they can go out whenever they want, whereas i have to stay home and do homework. Don't get me wrong, i would NEVER trade Taylor for going out ANY day or for anything else in the world! It just stinks when Jason doesn't take the same responsibility and i get stuck home alone. Taylor goes to bed around 8:30 and then its just me sitting there watching TV while Jason's out having a good time.
Like i said, i need to work on this, but i am getting better and it is making a difference in our relationship.
The dare said to:
Determine to become your spouse's biggest fan and to reject any thoughts of jealousy. To help you set your heart on your spouse and focus on their achievements, take yesterday's list of negative attributes and discreetly burn it. Then share with your spouse how glad you are about a success he or she recently enjoyed.
Well, like i have said, I'm working on the jealousy part (slowly getting better) but Jason hasn't recently enjoyed any success that i can think of so i will just have to keep that in mind and move on to the next dare.
Maybe i should congratulate him on finding such good friends that were under my nose all along!
(Its one of my friend's boyfriend that he's become such good friends with)
Anywho, onto the next one.......
The lesson:
Love makes good impressions
The Dare:
Think of a specific way you'd like to greet you spouse today. Do it with a smile and with enthusiasm. Then determine to change your greeting to reflect your love for them.
I like this one and i think Jason will too altho he probably wont even realize I'm doing anything or making the effort!
In the last week or so i have realized that i have to work on my jealousy BIG time! In reality it has nothing to do with how much i trust Jason, it's really about my own insecurities. Like when he goes and hangs out with his friends but leaves me at home with Taylor. He has spent the last 2 years sharing MY friends bc he had just moved back and didnt know anybody! i should be overjoyed that he finally has someone/somewhere that he can go hang out and stay out of trouble.
The best part about it is, they are my friends too and i really like hanging out with all of them! Its kind of a couples thing going on and everyone is so funny and easy going! I think the only reason i get jealous is bc none of them have kids so they can go out whenever they want, whereas i have to stay home and do homework. Don't get me wrong, i would NEVER trade Taylor for going out ANY day or for anything else in the world! It just stinks when Jason doesn't take the same responsibility and i get stuck home alone. Taylor goes to bed around 8:30 and then its just me sitting there watching TV while Jason's out having a good time.
Like i said, i need to work on this, but i am getting better and it is making a difference in our relationship.
The dare said to:
Determine to become your spouse's biggest fan and to reject any thoughts of jealousy. To help you set your heart on your spouse and focus on their achievements, take yesterday's list of negative attributes and discreetly burn it. Then share with your spouse how glad you are about a success he or she recently enjoyed.
Well, like i have said, I'm working on the jealousy part (slowly getting better) but Jason hasn't recently enjoyed any success that i can think of so i will just have to keep that in mind and move on to the next dare.
Maybe i should congratulate him on finding such good friends that were under my nose all along!
(Its one of my friend's boyfriend that he's become such good friends with)
Anywho, onto the next one.......
The lesson:
Love makes good impressions
The Dare:
Think of a specific way you'd like to greet you spouse today. Do it with a smile and with enthusiasm. Then determine to change your greeting to reflect your love for them.
I like this one and i think Jason will too altho he probably wont even realize I'm doing anything or making the effort!
Thursday, March 5, 2009
Number 8
hey!
Sorry its been so long, I have had a million things to deal with, school of course, but i found out a couple of weeks ago that my cake lady had to cancel on me. I was really bummed, but she just found out she had cancer!! I feel horrible for her! i hope that she everything turns out ok for her!
I have been searching for someone to make the cake, but haven't had much luck. Either they want too much $$$ or they cant make exactly what i want : (
I haven't been freaking out about it too much, but the clock is ticking and i thought i already had this taken care of!!!
I went shopping at publix yesterday (my fav place to shop!) and i saw a student that just did her rotations through MUSC last semester, I remembered she told me her mom also worked at the publix bakery and did cakes on the side!!! I called her last night and she's going to do the cake for the same price!!! That's all the different flavors, set up fee and all!!! i couldn't be happier!!! It was a blessing!! I feel like that was exactly what was supposed to happen!!
Ok, back to the book.
My last dare said to make a list of good and bad traits. It was pretty easy to do. Jason has a lot of good traits and bad ones as well (just like everyone else)
I was to pick one good trait and thank him for it.
I choose to thank him for loving me for me! He has seen me inside and out and knows everything about me, even all the bad, gross things that i wouldn't want anyone to see in a million years, and loves me anyway! what more could you ask for?!!
He was kind of like, Ok?
but dare completed!
Lesson 8
Love is not jealous
The Dare
Determine to become your spouse's biggest fan and to reject any thoughts of jealousy. To help you set your heart on your spouse and focus on their achievements, take yesterday's list of negative attributes and discreetly burn it. Then share with your spouse how glad you are about a success he or she recently enjoyed.
Both me and Jason need to work on this one. I wont be able to burn my list, i made it on here and just never posted it, but ill imagine burning it in my head! I'm a bit of a pyro so I'm a little sad i cant physically burn it, lol!! I'm cant think of a recent success, so ill have to think on this one for a bit.
I must say, I'm really enjoying this book. I LOVE to read, and just recently started enjoying christian fiction. I wish i could read the bible more, but i get lost in all the family trees and sons of so and so. This book is great because it has a great message, and passages from the bible in a way that i can understand them and relate to them!!!
Sorry its been so long, I have had a million things to deal with, school of course, but i found out a couple of weeks ago that my cake lady had to cancel on me. I was really bummed, but she just found out she had cancer!! I feel horrible for her! i hope that she everything turns out ok for her!
I have been searching for someone to make the cake, but haven't had much luck. Either they want too much $$$ or they cant make exactly what i want : (
I haven't been freaking out about it too much, but the clock is ticking and i thought i already had this taken care of!!!
I went shopping at publix yesterday (my fav place to shop!) and i saw a student that just did her rotations through MUSC last semester, I remembered she told me her mom also worked at the publix bakery and did cakes on the side!!! I called her last night and she's going to do the cake for the same price!!! That's all the different flavors, set up fee and all!!! i couldn't be happier!!! It was a blessing!! I feel like that was exactly what was supposed to happen!!
Ok, back to the book.
My last dare said to make a list of good and bad traits. It was pretty easy to do. Jason has a lot of good traits and bad ones as well (just like everyone else)
I was to pick one good trait and thank him for it.
I choose to thank him for loving me for me! He has seen me inside and out and knows everything about me, even all the bad, gross things that i wouldn't want anyone to see in a million years, and loves me anyway! what more could you ask for?!!
He was kind of like, Ok?
but dare completed!
Lesson 8
Love is not jealous
The Dare
Determine to become your spouse's biggest fan and to reject any thoughts of jealousy. To help you set your heart on your spouse and focus on their achievements, take yesterday's list of negative attributes and discreetly burn it. Then share with your spouse how glad you are about a success he or she recently enjoyed.
Both me and Jason need to work on this one. I wont be able to burn my list, i made it on here and just never posted it, but ill imagine burning it in my head! I'm a bit of a pyro so I'm a little sad i cant physically burn it, lol!! I'm cant think of a recent success, so ill have to think on this one for a bit.
I must say, I'm really enjoying this book. I LOVE to read, and just recently started enjoying christian fiction. I wish i could read the bible more, but i get lost in all the family trees and sons of so and so. This book is great because it has a great message, and passages from the bible in a way that i can understand them and relate to them!!!
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