First let me say thank you to the ones or one (lol) that follows this and is supportive of my writing!! It means a lot to me! I am very insecure about it and your positive words encourage me to continue sharing my journey with you!
This last dare was a little difficult for me. I was a little confused as to what my actual assignment was. After thinking about for a day or two and re-reading the chapter, which I often do anyway to make sure I'm getting the message, I have come up with this:
Part 1- Choose today to react to tough circumstances in your marriage in loving ways instead of with irritation
I am still having trouble controlling my reaction to certain circumstances. I have such a hard time holding my tongue! This morning I was offended because Jason my criticizing my driving! JASON who has me grabbing the "oh shit" handle at least once a day when he drives!!! I was kinda angry about it. I'm sad to say i couldn't help myself from making one small comment, however, for the most part i was able to hide most of my irritation. I didn't get out of the car and start texting him all kinds of mean things, so I'm pretty proud of myself. I had to keep telling myself, let it go, its not worth the fight. And i did, I got out the car and made him give me a kiss, instead of getting out of the car and not even telling him goodbye. Now that I'm at work, i feel so much better about it and I'm glad i was able to let it go!!
Part 2- Begin by making a list below of areas where you need to add margin to your schedule.
It didn't take me long to come up with this list.
The first place i need to add margin is in my school work. I am such a procrastinator! I wait till the last min to do all my assignments and tests. This can be very stressful when the deadline is fast approaching and I'm not done with the homework or am not completely sure what I'm supposed to do in the first place. I have a wedding coming up in TWO months! This semester's work goes all the way up until the day of the wedding. That sounds crazy but ALL of the assignments are already open. Which means i can do ALL of them today if i wanted and not have to worry about them anymore.
Have I? Of course not!
That's not what procrastinator's do! I will work harder on getting this done so i am not a mad woman up until the wedding.
Other places i could add margin are at the gym. Its a great stress reliever. Also i would like to make more time for just me and Jason. We are always together but its not usually quality time. Its hanging with the kids, or friends, or watching TV (which is NOT considered quality time)
Part 3- List any wrong motivations that you need to release from your life.
Hmmmmm. I'm not sure about this one. I would like to thing i don't have any wrong motivations.
Selfishness is a wrong motivation, and while I'm selfish, most of the things i do are not out of selfishness (or at least i don't think.)
I wouldn't consider going to the gym selfish even though i do do it for myself. To look better, to feel better, and to be healthy.
We started dance class. That was a little selfish i guess because it was something i REALLY wanted to do, however, part of the motivation was also to bring me and Jason closer together.
Ill have to think about this one a little more and come back to it.
Lesson 7:
Love believes the best
The Dare:
For today's dare, get two sheets of paper. On the first one, spend a few minutes writing out positive things about your spouse. Then do the same with negative things on the second sheet. Place both sheets in a secret place of another day. There is a different purpose and plan for each. At some point during the remainder of the day, pick a positive attribute from the first list and thank your spouse for having this characteristic.
This sounds interesting!
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